Beaten Before Born: Sandra Grazzini-Rucki Assaulted While Pregnant – Rucki Wanted to Kill Baby Because He “Wasn’t Perfect”

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David Rucki is so violent, and so abusive that he beat ex-wife Sandra Grazzini-Rucki while pregnant, and assaulted his unborn before the child even took his first breath. As a result of the beating, the child was born prematurely (and suffers with permanent health problems).

This, according to, statements Sandra Grazzini-Rucki made during a heart-wrenching episode of Fighting B.A.C.K. (Aired: 6/19/2017) During the episode, Sandra also reveals that Rucki threatened to harm her children as a way to gain control over her through fear and intimidation.

 

The shocking revelation came when Sandra responded to a guest who was describing her own situation with domestic violence, and how her child was affected. The guest says her abusive ex used her child as a weapon, and would even retaliate by hurting the child, as a way to intimidate and control her. Sandra said that hearing the guest’s story reminded her of the violent marriage she escaped from.

The National Institutes of Health reports that over 300,000 pregnant women in the U.S. are victims to domestic violence, with domestic violence being the leading cause of death among U.S. women of childbearing age.

(Note: This article contains additional information on these incidents, as provided by a confidential source – which are told in the first person voice to illustrate Sandra’s horrifying experience, and told in this way raise awareness of the impact of domestic violence experienced during pregnancy)

Rucki’s Assault on an Unborn Baby: “I was kicked repeatedly in the stomach (because) he was ‘not a perfect child’…”

Imagine the horror Sandra surely experienced and felt: 

Lying on a gurney, hands desperately clutch swollen belly, trying to hold back contractions… as she fades in and out of consciousness, she pleads,”No, no, it’s too soon…”

How would she explain the bruises this time? The violent assault against her unborn left her belly black and blue, bleeding on the inside… she realized too late that she married a demon in the flesh. Raging he stood over her kicking again and again… spit flying from his mouth as he screamed and swore..

Loud voice, someone shouting her name… she screamed and threw her arms out… The beep-beep of a fetal monitor going wild… She struggled to open her eyes, not comprehending, plastic IV tubing twisting as she fought… frightened by the sound of her name being called. Was she safe?

Signs of life.. a faint and erratic heart beat … tiny, seashell shaped knees raised to chest then violently kick out… Even the hospital could not protect her once he realized the baby he tried to kill was now fighting back.

(28:21) Sandra says: “When my youngest child was born, he (David Rucki) was under the belief that this was not going to be a ‘perfect child’ when I was kicked repeatedly into the stomach and went into pre-term labor, and gave birth, and he (Rucki) said, I want him gone rather than have a kid that’s not perfect because it’s more about me than it is about him…”

The child has been permanently affected by the assault inflicted on him while in the womb, and will suffer with lifelong health issues.

Rucki Threatens to Chop Baby Up in a Ceiling Fan

All she wanted was to be a wife and mother, to have a home filled with laughter and children. Instead the children tip-toed through the rooms like ghosts – vainly trying to remain silent and unseen, as if they could avoid their father’s rage.

The children… where were the children? So much they should not see… the violence, the tears… the fake apologies… Hiding somewhere in the house. Hands slammed over their small ears. Tears filling their eyes. They feared not the mythical monster in the closet that most children imagine but the very real monster in the house, their father.

(28:06) Sandra says: “When my oldest child was 3 months old, my ex-husband David Rucki grabbed him from the bassinet, held him up to a ceiling fan and said, ‘You will do as I say or he is going into the fan…’”

(29:03) Sandra says: “Sometimes when you talk about things it reminds me of things that David Rucki did and yet these are the men that have our children… You talk about this and I know, I will never forget when David held the baby up to the ceiling fan and said ‘You do what I say or he’s (chokes on words) .. they have no concern for the child, it’s more of a control issue…”

Rucki Promised to Change But Then Threatened to Kill Sandra, and the Children

Runaway Rucki Teen, G.R. also stated,…He showed anger like, ‘I’m going to kill you…’ “ (Social Service Report, November 2015:  Social Worker Recommended – Protective Care for Rucki Girls, Supervised Visits With Father Due to Safety Concerns)

Sandra says during the marriage, Rucki repeatedly promised to change but always resorted back to his abusive behavior. Sandra says Rucki even threatened to kill “your children” if she did not comply with his demands.

Sandra says physical, mental and sexual abuse existed in the generations of the Rucki family and influenced David Rucki’s abusive behavior and attitude towards his own children. David Rucki promised Sandra that he would not abuse his own children the way he was abused by his father, and the way he witnessed his father abuse his sisters. Cut from the same fabric, David Rucki, in the end, turned out to be just as abusive, and dangerous to his own children as Fred Rucki was to him, and his sisters.

Family Court: The Two Options That Trap Victims of Domestic Violence

Judge David L Knutson (Dakota County, MN)

I think that is so sad that as a parent in an abusive relationship, why is it that your two options are: stay, being abused, have your child grow up in this environment filled with insecurities, tension and violence or leave and risk losing your child and continuing to suffer… – Comment from “Fighting Back” Guest, a Mother also involved in family court who lost custody of her baby to an alleged abuser

Sandra says that her children went to everyone asking for help and that every level of the system has failed to protect them.

Instead of protecting children, family court Judge David L Knutson, Dakota County, has assisted David Rucki in every step through the legal process to continue to abuse, torment and attempt to kill Sandra by making it impossible to survive. Judge Knutson has also endangered the lives of all 5 Rucki children by placing them under the care, custody and ultimately the control of David Rucki. Even as adults the Rucki children have been unable to escape their father and live independent lives of their own due to his violence against them.

For More Info on Grazzini-Rucki Case: Dakota County Corrupt Courthouse Event: Tour Infamous Court at Center of the Grazzini-Rucki Case

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Fighting B.A.C.K with Sandra Grazzini-Rucki and Courageous Mother

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Listen Online:Fighting B.A.C.K. with Courageous Mother

Original Air Date: Monday, June 19, 2017

On this episode of Fighting B.A.C.K. with Sandra Grazzini-Rucki, courageous mother JF, shares her story of surviving an abusive relationship only to be battered through the family court system where she lost custody of her infant son to an abuser in a temporary order that continues to this day.

The State of Maryland later issued felony child abduction charges against JF for  efforts to protect her son after his father had bruised and battered him during a two day weekend stay. On May 24, 2017, after a three day jury trial, eight woman and four men briefly deliberated and returned a unanimous not guilty verdict. Despite this, the child has not been returned and remains in the custody of a dangerous abuser.

JF was the primary caregiver when she was forcibly separated from her son, age 15 months, due to an unjust court order that has denied any and all access for visitation for over 8 long months, and counting. Sadly, the fight for her child’s freedom, and safety, continues to be an unbelievable struggle in the Howard County Circuit Court, where a custody hearing will be held this August.

Tune in to Fighting B.A.C.K. to hear JF share her story.

Other topics discussed include: protecting children from abuse, family court failures and updates from Sandra on her story, and her case.

Fighting B.A.C.K. with Courageous Mother

Fighting B.A.C.K.: Sandra Grazzini-Rucki with Guest Neil Shelton: “You Cannot Go Through This Battle Unscathed”

Listen Online:Fighting B.A.C.K. with Neil Shelton, Growing UP Mayberry

Original Air Date: Monday, May 8, 2017

Host Sandra Grazzini-Rucki interviews Neil Shelton of “Growing Up Mayberry”.

Mount Airy, North Carolina aka “Maybery” is the fictional setting for the all-American hometown portrayed in “The Andy Griffith Show” it has now become infamous for the extreme injustices inflicted on Neil Shelton. The dark side of Mayberry has been exposed…Andy Griffith and Don Knotts (Barney Fife) must be rolling in their graves!

Neil is the victim of a conspiracy involving his ex-wife and her attorney Sarah Stevens, a powerful state legislator, who sought to destroy him in a divorce. Neil has been forcefully separated from his children, stripped of everything he owns, financially devastated to the point that he became homeless, arrested 79 times on false charges by the Mayberry police (but never convicted) and falsely imprisoned. Neil has survived this incredible ordeal is fighting back!

Neil has since filed a civil lawsuit, seeking damages against the State of North Carolina, including 10 public figures and agencies, including Sarah Stevens. Neil has also helped to build “Future of Children” radio network, along with other hosts.

Click on this link to listen in: Fighting B.A.C.K. with Neil Shelton, Growing UP Mayberry

Neil Shelton

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Growing UP Mayberry Facebook

From Neil Shelton: Restraining Order Abuse, false psych hold and false arrests

William Neil Shelton’s very ugly divorce takes a new turn (Michael Volpe, CDN News)

Mount Airy resident sues state legislator, others

Fighting B.A.C.K. with Deborah (Goodman) Stacy: “I shouldn’t be tortured or punished for doing the right thing…”

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That I couldn’t believe.. in essence they’re not letting you get divorced, all those years. And that bothered me because it’s almost like a violation of your civil rights. I have a right to get divorced. I have a right to move on with my life, how I chose to, and not be judged. I give 110% of myself to my children and I shouldn’t be tortured or punished for doing the right thing or for putting money away and making sure that I can provide for my children….why would they want to hurt children?” ~ Deborah (Goodman) Stacy commenting on the family court system in Rockland County

Listen Online: Fighting B.A.C.K. with Deborah (Goodman) Stacy – Screwed by Rockland Courts

Original Air Date: Monday, May 1, 2017

Tune in to “Fighting B.A.C.K.” with Sandra Grazzini-Rucki to hear the story of Deborah (Goodman) Stacy, a courageous mother of two children who has been fighting against injustice in the family court of Rockland County, New York for the last 7 years.

A temporary custody order was issued by Judge Berliner in 2010 but custody has never been finalized, the case continues to linger in the court system with Deborah and the children hanging in limbo. Deborah currently retains physical custody of the children but has not been officially granted any custodial rights (physical or legal custody). Andreas Lempa, ex husband, lives overseas and has no relationship with the children by his own choice”.

Topics discussed include: the outrageous and illegal actions of Judge Victor J. Alfieri Jr., misconduct by Family Law Guardians/Guardian ad Litem and retaliation against parents who raise complaints against family court and its judges, GALs and other professionals.

Judge Victor J. Alfieri, Jr.

UPDATE:

Journalist Michael Volpe just released an article about the Goodman case:

GOODMAN DIVORCE RULING ISSUED: HOUSEWIFE TOLD TO SPLIT ASSETS WITH EX-HUSBAND

Judge Berliner has recently issued an order in the Goodman case from a trial that happened over a year ago.

Deborah, a housewife, has been ordered to pay a $300,000 divorce settlement to be paid to ex-husband, Andreas Lempa.  Lempa earns a six figure income annually; he is ordered to pay child support but does not pay spousal support.

Deborah says Judge Berliner issued the settlement without considering all the facts, including that money now being considered as a marital asset is in fact part of her own savings, that existed before the divorce, making it a non-marital asset. .

In addition, Andreas admitted during a deposition that he moved money out of his own investment account before the hearing, giving it a low balance. The total balance of the investment account was not included in the equitable distribution of the divorce. even though he is clearly hiding assets. 

A reader comments on the article that, “‘I think a more appropriate title would have been “Housewife told to split HER assets with ex husband, who was allowed to suppress his.‘”

Deborah believes the court ruling was issued to punish her for speaking out about the problems existing in the Rockland County family court.

Also Read:

Facebook: Justice in Rockland Courts

SCREWED BY ROCKLAND COURTS — DEB GOODMAN TELLS HER STORY

Fighting B.A.C.K. with Mary and Coz Whitten: Sisters Fought to Protect Beloved Uncle from Guardianship Abuse

Harvey Whitten was a medic in the Korean War

Beloved Harvey Whitten

Listen Online:Fighting B.A.C.K. with Mary and Coz Whitten

Original Air Date: Monday, April 24th 2017

This episode of Fighting B.A.C.K. with Sandra Grazzini-Rucki will feature two sisters, Mary and Coz Whitten,who will share their experiences of dealing with guardianship abuse in Montgomery County, PA.

Coz was appointed a co-guardian for her beloved uncle Harvey Whitten after he was diagnosed with dementia. Coz shared a close relationship with her uncle, and in the words of her sister, “showered him with love and attention”. A judge and a banker worked together to remove Coz as co-guardian and then assumed control of every aspect of Hervey’s life, and plundered his estate.

After being placed under the guardianship of the court, Harvey suffered physical, emotional and financial abuse. Harvey was over medicated to the point that according to a doctor “he was given enough medication to kill a horse”.

Unfortunately, thousands of people across the United States are nameless victims to this type of tyranny that appears to be state approved, state implemented, and state enforced. Join us as we expose the shameful racket of elder abuse and the devastating effects on Harvey, and his family.

Read More:

Catherine Falk Organization

Guardianship Abuse Spreads to Pennsylvania Part 2 by Michael Volpe

National Association To Stop Guardian Abuse: Victim Profile Harvey Whitten

Updates: Sandra Grazzini-Rucki & Mike Volpe then, Sharmian Worely (Guardianship Abuse)

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Fighting B.A.C.K. with Sandra Grazzini-Rucki feat. Charles J. Stecker Jr: “Every child on this planet is our responsibility…”

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Listen Online: Fighting B.A.C.K. with Charles J. Stecker Jr.

Original Air Date: Monday, April 10th

This episode of Fighting B.A.C.K. will feature Charles J. Stecker Jr., a guest who has made it his mission to advocate for abused and at-risk children, and is fighting back by working to prevent child abuse and stop crimes against children.

Charles encourages all people to be active in taking a role to stop child abuse because “every child on this planet is each one of our responsibility…

The advocacy work Charles does is motivated by his own experiences with child abuse, and his courageous efforts to not only survive but to overcome and make a positive difference in this world.

With the faith of a mustard seed, perseverance of an ant and tenacity of a bulldog, Charles J Stecker Jr has become a God led, award winning actionist, solutionist and warrior for anyone dealing with abuses of any type; with his primary focus being on children…”

Topics discussed on this show include: warning signs of child abuse, ways individuals and groups can prevent child abuse, systemic failures that place children’s lives at risk, and the personal experiences and story of Charles J. Stecker Jr.

YOU CAN HELP SUPPORT CHARLES IN HIS EFFORTS TO OBTAIN RECORDS CONCERNING THE MURDER OF HIS BROTHER BY A FOSTER CARE PROVIDER – PLZ SIGN THIS PETITION: 

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At age 4 Charles was placed into foster care with his 2 year old brother, Eddie. Prior to the arrival of the brothers, another boy had been killed while in the care of the foster mother. Despite this, DHS never took any action against the foster mother and allowed more children to be placed into her case. Charles and his brother were both abused by the foster mother, and after just 13 days of being placed in the home, Eddie was murdered. The foster mother was never held accountable for her actions, the case was dropped without criminal charges being filed.

Charles has fought for decades to gain access to records surrounding the death of his brother, which was covered up by police and social services who initially claimed the death never happened.

 

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Also Read:

Angelizd’s Place: In Memory of Edward “Eddie” John Stecker 1964-1967

The story of Charles Stecker and Lil Eddie

YouTube Channel: Charles J Stecker Jr.

 

Fighting B.A.C.K. with Sandra Grazzini-Rucki feat. Dr. Jim Singer: Risked Everything to Report Child Abuse

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Child abuse is entirely preventable and is increasing…The most vulnerable in our society is the least protected.. this is the reverse of what it is supposed to be..” ~ Dr. Jim Singer

Listen Online: Fighting B.A.C.K.: Sandra Grazzini-Rucki feat. Dr. Jim Singer

Original Air Date: Monday, April 3rd, 2017

On this episode of Fighting B.A.C.K., Sandra Grazzini-Rucki interviews psychologist Dr. Jim Singer, a hero to children, who lost his license in Pennsylvania after making a mandatory report about the physical and sexual abuse of a teen who came to him for help. The victim involved later wrote a letter to Dr. Singer, claiming his intervention saved her life.

Though the abuse was confirmed by two other medical professionals, Dr. Singer faced retaliation for making the report – by the family involved, by CPS and by the state. While Dr. Singer fought to get help for this victim, and clear his name, he encountered corruption at all levels of the Pennsylvania state government as well as possibly the national level.

Dr. Singer became a psychologist, he says “to make the world a better place and help people, especially families…”. In fighting for justice in his own case, Dr. Singer is also raising awareness about child abuse and exposing how the system fails to protect children from abuse and instead, protects perpetrators. This is a shocking and informative interview that you will not want to miss!

Also Read:

Former Pennsylvania psychologist says he reported child molestation, lost license (Daily Caller)

Pennsylvania Has Lowest Reporting of Child Abuse in U.S., Group Says (CNS News)